Now, I'm on a rant here. I'm also new to FK, so if I do anything "wrong" I apologize in advance. My boyfriend actually directed me to this site, and said there is a lot of constructive criticism. I am asking for you to give me all you've got.
So about a month ago, I discovered my boyfriend of now 3 months (on Thursday) had cheated on me. Before you judge me for worrying so much about such a short relationship at this point, know that we have been talking sense around November. I also met him at a very difficult time in my life, and he helped me through a lot of issues I had. This made us very close, I trusted him a lot. Fast forward a little, we started talking. I originally had no intention of going in this direction with him, but I thought giving the good guy a chance would be the right way to go.
At the time I found out he cheated on me, we had been dating almost two months. I knew he had been cheated on before (by my friend actually) and he assured me he could never do that to somebody because he knew how much it hurt. Of course I believed him. Anyways, we got into a heated argument one night and he decided to make a status on Facebook saying he needed a new girl best friend. Seeing this pissed me off more than I already was, I ended up going off on him for the status and later that night I found out he asked a girl that lives by him to "come to his house and watch movies with him" and that she was his new best friend. Seriously? I'm a girl, you can't expect flames to NOT be coming out of my head at that point. He then assured me he wouldn't talk to her anymore, wouldn't sit with her on the bus, that she didn't and wouldn't come over and also apologized. I accepted that and let it go. About 2 weeks later, I got on his Facebook. I'll tell you the truth, the girl he asked to be his "best friend" was making a lot of status's and something in my gut told me they were about him and to go look at their messages. I was still a little curious about the entire movie/best friend issue still anyways. So I get on his Facebook, and read the messages. Turns out she DID come over, and may I mention no one else was home at that point. His mom was at work. After those messages I was already angry, and it just got worse at that point. He told her that she should of kissed him, that I was out kissing other guys (which I wasn't and still am not) and stuck up for her when I got mad about the first message. He asked her to hangout a few more times after that.
This truthfully, hurt me and broke a lot of trust even though he did not physically cheat on me. I will also mention he tried to lie about it, and has lied about having sex with girls in the past. It was when we were talking so I do not hold it completely against him.
We are now back together after I had broken up with him that day. I figured after talking for months and him being almost the only person that had stayed in my life that long I should give him a second chance considering everybody deserves one. We still argue about it sometimes, and he thinks that we need to stop talking about. I agree that it shouldn't be our main conversation, but if I am thinking about it and it's causing trust issues we need to discuss it sometimes.
What is you're opinion on the way he is dealing with the situation? If you do not understand some things I've tried to explain, tell me and I will re-explain it to you. I tried to make it as short as I could by just including the main information.
So about a month ago, I discovered my boyfriend of now 3 months (on Thursday) had cheated on me. Before you judge me for worrying so much about such a short relationship at this point, know that we have been talking sense around November. I also met him at a very difficult time in my life, and he helped me through a lot of issues I had. This made us very close, I trusted him a lot. Fast forward a little, we started talking. I originally had no intention of going in this direction with him, but I thought giving the good guy a chance would be the right way to go.
At the time I found out he cheated on me, we had been dating almost two months. I knew he had been cheated on before (by my friend actually) and he assured me he could never do that to somebody because he knew how much it hurt. Of course I believed him. Anyways, we got into a heated argument one night and he decided to make a status on Facebook saying he needed a new girl best friend. Seeing this pissed me off more than I already was, I ended up going off on him for the status and later that night I found out he asked a girl that lives by him to "come to his house and watch movies with him" and that she was his new best friend. Seriously? I'm a girl, you can't expect flames to NOT be coming out of my head at that point. He then assured me he wouldn't talk to her anymore, wouldn't sit with her on the bus, that she didn't and wouldn't come over and also apologized. I accepted that and let it go. About 2 weeks later, I got on his Facebook. I'll tell you the truth, the girl he asked to be his "best friend" was making a lot of status's and something in my gut told me they were about him and to go look at their messages. I was still a little curious about the entire movie/best friend issue still anyways. So I get on his Facebook, and read the messages. Turns out she DID come over, and may I mention no one else was home at that point. His mom was at work. After those messages I was already angry, and it just got worse at that point. He told her that she should of kissed him, that I was out kissing other guys (which I wasn't and still am not) and stuck up for her when I got mad about the first message. He asked her to hangout a few more times after that.
This truthfully, hurt me and broke a lot of trust even though he did not physically cheat on me. I will also mention he tried to lie about it, and has lied about having sex with girls in the past. It was when we were talking so I do not hold it completely against him.
We are now back together after I had broken up with him that day. I figured after talking for months and him being almost the only person that had stayed in my life that long I should give him a second chance considering everybody deserves one. We still argue about it sometimes, and he thinks that we need to stop talking about. I agree that it shouldn't be our main conversation, but if I am thinking about it and it's causing trust issues we need to discuss it sometimes.
What is you're opinion on the way he is dealing with the situation? If you do not understand some things I've tried to explain, tell me and I will re-explain it to you. I tried to make it as short as I could by just including the main information.
