Most people are burdened with trials or failures tend to sulk or nurture pity. They easily give up and become complacent. In so doing, they become miserable and end up a loser.
Rising from one's failures and disappointments requires courage and determination to control oneself, accept responsibility for one's mistakes and learn from them. The fact is that most of a person's miseries are his own making or he may have perpetuated them without realizing it. Rather than nurture hatred and resort to self pity, escapism or rationalizations,(defense mechanism), one must face his problems squarely, find out what God is telling him or what He wants him to realize. When a person humbles himself, admits his shortcomings. learn to forgive and understand his offenders, purification takes place and a new life begins within him.
By learning from his mistakes, a person becomes wiser and life becomes more meaningful. Likewise he finds peace in himself, peace with God and with others. For whatever the hurts may entail, he will never lose his self worth.
Every person has his own mind and will. There are perhaps circumstances in his life that are beyond his control but he can control the consequences. Victor Frankl, one of the greatest psychotherapists, once a prisoner during the Nazi regime in Germany was imprisoned and tortured yet turned his experience into a learning and meaningful event in his life, writing about it and sharing it to others. Like Victor, everyone needs the courage and the optimism to turn negative events into a glorifying experience. When one fails, it is because he chooses to fail and did not do something with his handicaps or weakness. He is unable to profit from his own mistakes or failures.
"The greatness of a man is not so much measured by his achievements but rather in his capacity to rise each time he falls."