Happiness

I've recently came to dread the concept of happiness and the idea that our life goals must be to sustain contentment. People consistently tell me I look unhappy and that I ought to be happy. It's annoying, honestly. Human emotion isn't restricted by a spectrum or some line of emotion; it isn't limited to this false dichotomy of happiness and unhappiness, firstly. It's dimensional - it's complex - it's nuanced - it's beautiful. Secondly, why? Why must I always be happy? Why must it be my life goal? I have a damn good reason to be unhappy. I can find beauty and a sense of contentment in the Cosmos' perplexity, my vivid existence, and oneness, along with my assortment of values, however, that doesn't change the state of affairs. I can't justify deluding myself to a mindset of unconditional happiness when so much stupidity, injustice and adversity live among us. I rather be unhappy and aware than happy and a fool. Reality may be beautiful, but it is dark, and it is ominous - I can't find room for this notion that we must be happy. I can't and don't want to be happy when it isn't warranted. We would be nowhere if all we did was try to be consistently happy.

I also have came to dread the notion that materialism is incapable of yielding some sort of authentic happiness, that it's feigned, manufactured and temporary. Indeed, it is manufactured, however, to say that the sensation of contentment you got getting your first phone and computer or receiving your paycheck is utterly fraudulent is stupid; it sure felt real to me, and it indeed can be temporary, however so can love. Real happiness comes from determining your values, whether it be materialism or relinquishing your worldly possessions. However, how they tie to everyone's well-being and what is important, is something else.

My nigga, I have no idea what I just read.

you need to lay off the adderall a bit. just a suggestion.

Rather than attempt to push your feelings upon others, think of it as yourself. Happiness is impossible to explain, as it pertains to oneself, and oneself only. Your happiness is in the moments you're NOT striving toward it, when you're not assessing your level of happiness, but just being. The moment you question whether you're happy, is the moment you cease to be.

In your case, don't stress it. If you're content in being what you consider unhappy, is that truly unhappy?

This thread uneasy on my tiny brain but, don't worry, be happy!

But why would one enjoy being unhappy?

Happiness is just an easy way to explain people who enjoy life. Kind of like a dog enjoys the simple task of fetch. Whether he is fetching a diamond or a stick it makes no difference. Happiness isn't something you can force upon yourself. It's a natural expression of sincere enjoyment of life. It's free, but priceless at the same time.

Ironhide said:

But why would one enjoy being unhappy?

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To be realistic, not pessimistic. Its hard to remain happy while simultaneously being aware of all the injustice and crisis that exists in our world. Ignorance is bliss. Cognizance is grief.

wash said:

To be realistic, not pessimistic. Its hard to remain happy while simultaneously being aware of all the injustice and crisis that exists in our world. Ignorance is bliss. Cognizance is grief.

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That's true for some people, the same cannot be said for me.  I live life every day happily as I can, yea sure I have my shitty days, shitty moments in happy days, everyone does but all in all, I am pretty content with life, as for injustice and crisis in the world; I could give less than a fuck.   Give a fuck bout anyone else, I'ma do me and live my life the way I want to. Ha yea sorry I'm brutal like that .

Color said:

Rather than attempt to push your feelings upon others, think of it as yourself.  Happiness is impossible to explain, as it pertains to oneself, and oneself only.  Your happiness is in the moments you're NOT striving toward it, when you're not assessing your level of happiness, but just being.  The moment you question whether you're happy, is the moment you cease to be.

In your case, don't stress it.  If you're content in being what you consider unhappy, is that truly unhappy?

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What do you mean push my feelings upon others?

I understand happiness is a direction and not a destination, to be found in just being. This I toke note of when I talked about my vivid existence. That's simply not true; I know from experience that's not true, when I question if I'm happy during trances of happiness, I become more content when recognizing I am happy: "Today was a good day," perhaps, is a common saying for a reason.

I am unhappy with the world, however, that is not to say I am stressing unhealthly nor incapable of instances of happiness. I'm not content with being unhappy with the world, however, I recognize the importance of what is right; that, that makes me happy, not being discontent with the world.

only one without 100% perfect grammar right here, so..

If you look unhappy its only how you feel and no one can change that, only yourself but if you want to change it, it should only be on your choice.

#didntreadlol

Ironhide said:

But why would one enjoy being unhappy?

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Read my response to Color. It's more complicated than that.

The purpose of writing is to clearly and quickly convey thoughts, not to use uncommon words with complex writing styles. What is the purpose of sentences such as these: "I can find beauty and a sense of contentment in the Cosmos' perplexity, my vivid existence, and oneness, along with my assortment of values, however, that doesn't change the state of affairs", and, "It's dimensional - it's complex - it's nuisance - it's beautiful"? Nuisance isn't even an adjective. You're confusing the English language.

Mars said:

The purpose of writing is to clearly and quickly convey thoughts, not to use uncommon words with complex writing styles. What is the purpose of sentences such as these: "I can find beauty and a sense of contentment in the Cosmos' perplexity, my vivid existence, and oneness, along with my assortment of values, however, that doesn't change the state of affairs", and, "It's dimensional - it's complex - it's nuisance - it's beautiful"? Nuisance isn't even an adjective. You're confusing the English language.

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Yeah, indeed, and I was doing exactly that. I conveyed precisely what I thought. The purpose of utilizing these words isn't to be a smartass; I'm attempting to apply words and sentence structures which I have found to condense large quantities of information, hence quickly. For example, it would take significantly longer to explain the ideas captured by dimensional, complex, "nuisance" and beautiful, then tie them to human emotion, rather than just simply using the words that define them, then tying them to human emotion.

I meant nuanced.

Cann!balYeah, indeed, and I was doing exactly that. I conveyed precisely what I thought. The purpose of utilizing these words isn't to be a smartass; I'm attempting to apply words and sentence structures which I have found to condense large quantities of information, hence quickly. For example, it would take significantly longer to explain the ideas captured by dimensional, complex, "nuisance" and beautiful, then tie them to human emotion, rather than just simply using the words that define them, then tying them to human emotion.

I meant nuanced.
It's not descriptive words such as those that create confusion. You have this artistic and creative writing structure that may seem to flow majestically in your own mind, but in the mind of others, it's confusing. Let's be real, the majority of people on this forum are either too young to interpret, or aren't very bright. When I write on this forum, I try to write in a way that's easy for everyone to understand. It's just my opinion from what I have learned from my professors. You say you use larger words to condense your writing, but I see numerous examples of how your writing style elongates your writing anyways. 

I couldn't have put this better myself. We seem to have the same outlook on multiple things throughout life, and I cannot explain how I felt whilst reading this. These thoughts have all roamed within my brain, but I never knew the sufficient technique of sharing it with others. Thank you.

Icarus said:

It's not descriptive words such as those that create confusion. You have this artistic and creative writing structure that may seem to flow majestically in your own mind, but in the mind of others, it's confusing. Let's be real, the majority of people on this forum are either too young to interpret, or aren't very bright. When I write on this forum, I try to write in a way that's easy for everyone to understand. It's just my opinion from what I have learned from my professors. You say you use larger words to condense your writing, but I see numerous examples of how your writing style elongates your writing anyways. 

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I disagree, however, you're missing the point of my example.

I'm not going to render myself to an uncreative and confined moron to appeal to a layman's understanding of the world. Confining yourself is totally redundant of what it is to be a good writer.

I don't care what your professors think, and perhaps you do see numerous examples, however, I'm going to write in the fashion which I can find myself prosper significantly as a writer.

I like this thread!, some people gain happiness through looking good and high self-esteem. some people gain happiness through there children or partner. some people gain happiness through meditation.
As far as we know we only have one life to live, and happiness makes that one life worth while.

Im personally very disgusted with this world!, the people, the judgment, murder, abuse, etc. I just block that stuff out and dont think about it. unless you are going to change it dont think about it right? a feeling dosen't feed a hungry person. and putting yourself down for something you can't change is unnecessary. I just feel you should live life and look out for yourself and what benefits you and makes you happy, whilst trying not to upset others and take anything from them.