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So I am 15 and she is 16 and she wants a kid, I really do think that I have the feeling love with her but I am to fucking young for a kid, so I told her no, and now she is all butthurt and doesn't want to talk to me until I figure something out, so I asked my aunty if I can babysit her baby (1 year old) with my girlfriend and she said yes, so i let her deal with the baby so she can have a feeling of having a baby and she was fine with it. And she still expects one. I talked to my mom about it and she said "Its your problem not mine."

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Dude, you shouldn't have to do something that you don't want to.
You're too young and she's too young. You don't know that you'll be together in a year or two and then it's going to be completely unfair on the child. How do you expect to pay for the kid? I doubt you'll want to give up school and such to look after a baby.

To be honest, if you both can't move past it, then maybe the relationship isn't for you man.
If you end up wanting to have a kid with her, then good-luck to you. But I just wouldn't advise it this early in your life.
Shit changes.

Edit: Also your girlfriend sounds like my ex-girfriend who I left because she was batshit crazy.
 

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Thank you @deuce . I think she wants one cause she sees them all the time and take cares for them, so I called her right after you posted your advice. So I called saying "I'm sorry but I do not want a child babe, I am 15 and have a very bright future, I do not want a child because I need to stay and school and I do not want to spend my work money for a baby, I would rather keep putting it towards my college funds." She told me "So you don't wanna make me happy? *with a crying voice*" I said "I do but not with a child, how about I take you out for a movie and then some pizza on Saturday?" She said "Sounds good!" So do you think she got over it?
 

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Dude.. I think she's psychotic. But if you're happy then that's all that matters.
Unless she's just screwing with you, she's exactly like my ex. (You could even be dating my ex for all I know)

And I don't know if she got over it man, you could try bringing it up lightly or leaving it all together. Personally, I think you should leave the subject alone with her as you're only bound to cause more drama by bringing it back up.

If she brings it up, then touch upon it lightly.
Just don't be caught in the moment and do something you'll regret when you go home for the day.
 

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Damn dude your girlfriends a fucking nut (no offense) you both are far too young for anything like this. It's common sense.
 

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@alt I agree with you 100%. I dont even know here this baby subject came from with her. So yeah, I really do like her I do not know about love cause I don't know when I will feel it or how it even feels or if I am. I accept anyone opinions. It's forum we are one family.
 

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Fuckkkkkkkkkk that. Bitches be crazy.
This isn't just something you do cause you're bored and 16, it lasts the rest of your life. Enjoy yourself, you're young. Get her a puppy or some shit. Watch the movie "Big Stan" for some pointers on that. Lool.
 

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Honestly man, this is what I'd do, sit her down, and just say you feel uncomfortable doing this, and that you'd rather have a baby in the future, as your still in education, and only 15, and she's only 16..
 

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A huge kudos from me to you, for being so open minded and so honest with yourself. Be prepared to end it if you feel like it's heading that way. Do it on your own terms, beat her to the punch. It seems so silly and ridiculous that this would even be brought up. Your girlfriend i having a huge stoke of immaturity and obsession hit her. It would be a shame for it to end a good thing my friend.

IF it comes to it, let her now how you feel about her, but lay down the facts. Financially and realistically it will never work, and it will ruin your guys' lives so young. She views the baby as a game, a possession, something cute that brings joy . A baby can be all of those things but with her age and inexperience it will be hell for you both. Please, don't father this baby. You don't even know if you love her. Go with what you know is right.

I know you want to make it work, but if she isn't sble to step back and look at it from a realistic, logical perspective...you don't want her man. Best of luck buddy, no matter what everything will be okay. You seem like a very capable guy for how young you are.
 

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You're the man in the relationship she doesn't control you remember that. You guys aren't even done with school but she wants a kid..
 

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I think she needs to let you do anal. Tell her anal for a kid then scam her.
 

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Ride said:
I think she needs to let you do anal. Tell her anal for a kid then scam her.
Click to expand...

I vouch for this method.
A++.

On a serious note, just take advice from the other members. Many of them put in very decent ideas. If she continues to bring it up, you're gonna have to talk to her about the troubles this will bring you.

Good luck, pal; make some smart decisions.
 

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You're both far too young for something like this. If your girlfriend doesn't see it that way, you'll have to either convince her otherwise or put an end to the relationship. You shouldn't be pressured into something of this gravity at your age, let alone at any age.
 

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Thats way to young to have a kid she might need to seek help. There is so many things that could go wrong with that.you should really have her talk to someone parent therapist docter maybe they can explain what it takes to be a Parent. Not being mean JS.
 

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I will make a good uncle.

Do you guys agree? @dui @alt @fade @color @deuce @jeffrey @500 @shout @ride @solar @fresh @Xibalba @wiz

But forreal Adrian you are too fucking young to be thinking about that.
Plan #1: First worry about finishing school, getting a job, and simple just let her grow up a bit more, I know your girlfriend and she is kinda weird.
She will change her mind.


Plan #2: Have her ass babysit my 16 year old ass for a day. I guarantee juice on her clothes, Temper tantrums, shit, and maybe blood.
 

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Me: Mom! My girlfriend wants to have a baby... should I?
Mom: Get yo ass in here, do the dishes, sweep the floor, and fucking mop.
Me: ANSWER THE DAMN QUESTION!
Mom: Fuck no, now get cleaning you pussy ass ma'fucker
Me: Okai.

Yep
 

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Lmao "I know your girlfriend and she is kind of weird"
 
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