Girlfriend or Best Friends?

jolito098 · Jul 25, 2011

Hi Swagmates.
I have a problem now but i do not know who to tell about it.
I just want a good advice here.
Is it better to keep your personal problems with your girlfriend?
Or you rather choose your best of friends to tell all about it?
What do you think?

By the way my best friends are not so serious people. But their funny advices sometimes gets me to a point wherein I can say that "Yeah you're right even you're just joking."

Problem solved guys!Thanks for all that helped! Im really happy on the outcome

Thanks for the following:
MsRaintree
meriamg27
mixa94
Grumpy
Pikapika102
dvL-den
jethro64
Edward
vignesssh
someday
reymartin69
babychane
plumhunter27
armarasrar1
pritilixious
Michael Scofield
khare1005
speedy

MsRaintree · Jul 25, 2011

When you have a girlfriend, I believe it's alright to share your problems with your girlfriend. That's why you chose her for your company. Having a relationship with someone means you have to share the part of you. But it's really up to you. If you don't feel comfortable sharing or telling it to her it's up to you. Sparing her from being bothered with your problems could be a sign too that you don't want to put a strain into your relationship. Try to weigh things out. If it would do good then its alright.

jolito098 · Jul 25, 2011

MsRaintree said:
When you have a girlfriend, I believe it's alright to share your problems with your girlfriend. That's why you chose her for your company. Having a relationship with someone means you have to share the part of you. But it's really up to you. If you don't feel comfortable sharing or telling it to her it's up to you. Sparing her from being bothered with your problems could be a sign too that you don't want to put a strain into your relationship. Try to weigh things out. If it would do good then its alright.

Thanks for that nice advice. If only i could tell you my problem now. It is something that you wont bother telling your girlfriend. It is not a boy matter. it is also a problem regarding her. but i just cant tell her this. but i want her to know about this. Well im confused.

meriamg27 · Jul 25, 2011

jolito098 said:
Hi Swagmates.
I have a problem now but i do not know who to tell about it.
I just want a good advice here.
Is it better to keep your personal problems with your girlfriend?
Or you rather choose your best of friends to tell all about it?
What do you think?

By the way my best friends are not so serious people. But their funny advices sometimes gets me to a point wherein I can say that "Yeah you're right even you're just joking."

well, if your bestfriend is trusted you can share your problems to him and i think he will help you what is the best decision would you ever make.

jolito098 · Jul 25, 2011

meriamg27 said:
well, if your bestfriend is trusted you can share your problems to him and i think he will help you what is the best decision would you ever make.

they are trustworthy but if i tell my friends about this without telling to my girlfriend, i would feel guilty. What's the matter with me? I can't say it on both of them. I have to choose one.

mixa94 · Jul 25, 2011

I have a lot of friends , but only a few best ones but they don't take for serious...So its easier for me to tell my girlfriend my problems because she loves me and understands me.

Grumpy_mybb_import18337 · Jul 25, 2011

This is a very hard one to decide when you are young or when you're a teenager, but as you get older, the clearer it gets for you. Your girlfriend should always take priority since you should love and respect her more than anyone in the world. This is a straight answer for me, and I'm going to say my girlfriend.

jolito098 · Jul 25, 2011

Grumpy said:
This is a very hard one to decide when you are young or when you're a teenager, but as you get older, the clearer it gets for you. Your girlfriend should always take priority since you should love and respect her more than anyone in the world. This is a straight answer for me, and I'm going to say my girlfriend.

Thanks for the comment Grumpy.
But their is still one thing:
Even if it takes on getting you two in a fight? Would you sacrifice that? Because in my case, I am very afraid of having a quarrel with my girlfriend. Even just a commotion, I'd rather choose to change the topic than exchanging the same lines over and over again when you know you'll end up fighting.

Pikapika102 · Jul 25, 2011

jolito098 said:
Thanks for the comment Grumpy.
But their is still one thing:
Even if it takes on getting you two in a fight? Would you sacrifice that? Because in my case, I am very afraid of having a quarrel with my girlfriend. Even just a commotion, I'd rather choose to change the topic than exchanging the same lines over and over again when you know you'll end up fighting.

Well first of all, a fight here and there is good. Not all the time, of course, but you need some to get all of those bottled up feelings out. My girlfriend and I didn't fight for the first 7 months of our relationship, then we fought almost every day for MONTHS. Anyway, on topic, I would tell my girlfriend over my best friends, anyday. For one, she understands more than the best friends. Second, my girlfriend IS my best friend. She's not just 'my girlfriend'.

dvL-den · Jul 25, 2011

jolito098 said:
Hi Swagmates.
I have a problem now but i do not know who to tell about it.
I just want a good advice here.
Is it better to keep your personal problems with your girlfriend?
Or you rather choose your best of friends to tell all about it?
What do you think?

By the way my best friends are not so serious people. But their funny advices sometimes gets me to a point wherein I can say that "Yeah you're right even you're just joking."

If you ask me fellow... I have no girlfriend. But my friends are also "not so serious" and their advices always helps. But if I had girlfriend as you do... On your place I would tell to girlfriend

jethro64 · Jul 25, 2011

if ever that i have a girlfriend, I'll go to her first, she is in my priority, you should start telling problems and advices to each other. making you both stronger, she should be your strength and at the same time you are her strength. she should understand you, likely opening your problems to her will make her understand you more.

Edward · Jul 25, 2011

jolito098 said:
Hi Swagmates.
I have a problem now but i do not know who to tell about it.
I just want a good advice here.
Is it better to keep your personal problems with your girlfriend?
Or you rather choose your best of friends to tell all about it?
What do you think?

By the way my best friends are not so serious people. But their funny advices sometimes gets me to a point wherein I can say that "Yeah you're right even you're just joking."

No u must not share it with your gf u must share with ur frens itsbetter dont put pressure of ur p problems to ua gf

vignesssh · Jul 26, 2011

you see girlfriends gets changed by lots of people frequently by some of the people..but not the same for the best friends its better to go for best friends

someday · Jul 26, 2011

jolito098 said:
Hi Swagmates.
I have a problem now but i do not know who to tell about it.
I just want a good advice here.
Is it better to keep your personal problems with your girlfriend?
Or you rather choose your best of friends to tell all about it?
What do you think?

By the way my best friends are not so serious people. But their funny advices sometimes gets me to a point wherein I can say that "Yeah you're right even you're just joking."

i think when it comes to love and friends, it will be wise to keep them separate. the problem you have with your love, you can solve it with him/her and the problem you have with your friends, you solve it with your friends. Mixing them together will only create a mess at the end. So i think it is wise to keep them separately.

reymartin69 · Jul 26, 2011

You should be open to your girlfriend. It is ok to tell your best of friends but let your girlfriend knows about it too. Keeping secrets with your girlfriend is not good. What will you do if your girlfriend is keeping secrets too. For sure you get mad, and vise versa.

being open to your girlfriend will make her trust you more and your relationship will last. But if you choose not to stay with her for a long time, then keeping secrets is not a problem.

babychane · Jul 26, 2011

Hello! You know what? You will make your girlfriend feel that she's part f your life if you allow her to know what you really feel of if you have problems. It's not so embarrassing to talk about it over your girlfriend. When you enter a relationship with her, you already open the connection with the both of you. Believe me you will feel better if you say it to your girlfriend. As of now, me and my boyfriend is having problems but we make it sure that if someone feels bad about a thing, we share it and talk about it because it really helps if you talk about your problems with someone whom you can trust. You will feel good. Just try it there's no harm in trying to talk about it with your girlfriend, right? I hope that you will solve your problem soon. God bless ^^

plumhunter27 · Jul 26, 2011

jolito098 said:
Hi Swagmates.
I have a problem now but i do not know who to tell about it.
I just want a good advice here.
Is it better to keep your personal problems with your girlfriend?
Or you rather choose your best of friends to tell all about it?
What do you think?

By the way my best friends are not so serious people. But their funny advices sometimes gets me to a point wherein I can say that "Yeah you're right even you're just joking."

It depends on the problem that you want to share. I believe that there are problems which you will better share with your girlfriend and there are things that you can tell with your best friend.

armarasrar1 · Jul 26, 2011

Well Tull now i did not have any Girl Friends and So If i want to share somethng then i would go for Best Friends Because they are great

pritilixious · Jul 26, 2011

I think it depends on what is your problem. If the problem is about your girlfriend,it would be best to seek advise first to your bestfriend,so at least he will give you idEAS On how you going to say to your girlfriend. But if your problem has nothing to do with your girlfriend,then it would be fair if you share your problem with your partner.because a girlfriend is a partner not only in times of happiness but mostly in times of troubles.

jolito098 · Jul 26, 2011

Oh just got a 50% peak o tearfall on my eyes while reading all of your posts.
Today we have met, and i have told her(my girlfriend) all of my problems. I'm surprised the way she reacted. Actually she had not reacted at all. All the time I was telling her all about it, she just looked me on my eyes. I felt how sincere here eyes are. And by the time i'm done, she hugged me really tight and her tears fell down. That's the time i have said to myself that all problems can be resolved with a serious conversation with her. She had not spoken for a long time when finally she opened her mouth and said thank you for me. Thanks for the advice everybody. My case is now resolved. I really appreciate all of your help. Thank you Marketswag! :smile:

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