Marriage

[Mason]

From semi-personal (family) experience, almost ALL marriages that start at 19, 20, 21, etc end up being less happy than much older couples marrying at age ~35.

Although it might seem a little late, you want to be single for a while! Not that you get trapped in marriage, but if you marry so young it's kind-of inevitable that you'll want to be single again, just to be single. Get all the single shit out of your system and then marry!

Though there are always exceptions, I know plenty of people who married right out of college and are happily married with kids 25 years later.

Another thing- at younger ages physical attraction is the #1 draw to most relationships and the older you get it just becomes about how much you like the person - makes sense that couples who met older and didn't just focus by looks by being picked up at a bar actually LIKE eachother for who they are and live much happier lives due to the fact that they enjoy the social company of their partner

I totally agree. This was the perfect breakdown of everything I was trying to say.

 

[climax]

#1. If your financially stable.

#2. You love your partner.

#3. You WANT to make them happy, if your in a relationship where you expect the other person to make you happy, then its a no-go.

 

[Kirby]

I don't think that there is a set time after which people should get married.

I do however think that before a marriage, the two people should

• Be financially stable
• Have already lived together for a decent amount of time. You never know someone fully until you live with them.
• Love each other. This one is obvious, but with the amount of divorces nowadays, I think you have to be sure before popping the question.
• Be ready to sacrifice a lot of time, among many other things, for their new spouse.

 

[climax]

I don't think that there is a set time after which people should get married.

I do however think that before a marriage, the two people should

• Be financially stable
• Have already lived together for a decent amount of time. You never know someone fully until you live with them.
• Love each other. This one is obvious, but with the amount of divorces nowadays, I think you have to be sure before popping the question.

Yeah, the amount of divorces nowadays is saddening, many years ago it was terribly frowned upon.

 

[Kirby]

Yeah, the amount of divorces nowadays is saddening, many years ago it was terribly frowned upon.

I hardly know anyone who's parents are still together. It's crazy how much shit has changed.

 

[Glitter Milk]

Imo, 28 is the year your life is no longer fun. So, that's the age to settle down, Invest in a house if you haven't already. Have a baby. Get married. Find a job that doesn't involve retail.

At least that's the year I'd choose to do everything. Not too young, not too old, financially stable. Somewhat of a game plan.

Those who have babies and get married towards the end of HS and their 1st/2nd year of college, are missing out on all the partying, friend time, SCHOOL. I don't know why they do it so early.

And whats disappointing, None of the early marriages I've come across has lasted more than 5 years.

 

[One]

Yeah late 20s early 30s. Maybe even later. It's all about how long you've been with the person and make a judgement call based on how much you feel for them. Another question is when to have a baby by...

 

[Mason]

I hardly know anyone who's parents are still together. It's crazy how much shit has changed.

Yeah its crazy. I think the divorice rate in the US is around 50%. Its such a waste of time to go through all that just to end up not being together. People just need to take it slow and wait for the right time.

 

[Paul H.]

I hardly know anyone who's parents are still together. It's crazy how much shit has changed.

Twenty four years for mine, woot woot!

 

[Cann!bal]

There isn't a time firstly and secondly, I think you're asking the wrong question. Humans don't grow as collectives, they grow as individuals. As the disparity of personal growth increases, the marriage and relationship will gradually metamorphosize into a parasitic dynamic subsisting of a foundation of insecurity based obligation and stagnancy. Evolution did not embed us with the intention to have one lifelong partner. Primates have multiple partners. It would take two extremely secure and aware people, with a profound sense of initiative to cultivate a long lasting and empowering relationship, which in all honesty is almost on the brink of a fantasy.

 

[Mason]

There isn't a time firstly and secondly, I think you're asking the wrong question. Humans don't grow as collectives, they grow as individuals. As the disparity of personal growth increases, the marriage and relationship will gradually metamorphosize into a parasitic dynamic subsisting of a foundation of insecurity based obligation and stagnancy. Evolution did not embed us with the intention to have one lifelong partner. Primates have multiple partners. It would take two extremely secure and aware people, with a profound sense of initiative to cultivate a long lasting and empowering relationship, which in all honesty is almost on the brink of a fantasy.

God Cann!bal, we all think we are writing intellegent answers then you come in here and obliterate us. I completely agree with you, but on the other hand it seems like the right thing to do in our society, its what everyone thinks is right. I feel that most people think it is right to date people, find a person you absolutly love, and then settle down for a life with them.