Marriage

Miles said:

From semi-personal (family) experience, almost ALL marriages that start at 19, 20, 21, etc end up being less happy than much older couples marrying at age ~35.

Although it might seem a little late, you want to be single for a while! Not that you get trapped in marriage, but if you marry so young it's kind-of inevitable that you'll want to be single again, just to be single. Get all the single shit out of your system and then marry!

Though there are always exceptions, I know plenty of people who married right out of college and are happily married with kids 25 years later.

Another thing- at younger ages physical attraction is the #1 draw to most relationships and the older you get it just becomes about how much you like the person - makes sense that couples who met older and didn't just focus by looks by being picked up at a bar actually LIKE eachother for who they are and live much happier lives due to the fact that they enjoy the social company of their partner

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• Be financially stable
• Have already lived together for a decent amount of time. You never know someone fully until you live with them.
• Love each other. This one is obvious, but with the amount of divorces nowadays, I think you have to be sure before popping the question.
• Be ready to sacrifice a lot of time, among many other things, for their new spouse.

Kirby said:

I don't think that there is a set time after which people should get married.

I do however think that before a marriage, the two people should

• Be financially stable
• Have already lived together for a decent amount of time. You never know someone fully until you live with them.
• Love each other. This one is obvious, but with the amount of divorces nowadays, I think you have to be sure before popping the question.

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Climax said:

Yeah, the amount of divorces nowadays is saddening, many years ago it was terribly frowned upon.

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Kirby said:

I hardly know anyone who's parents are still together. It's crazy how much shit has changed.

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Kirby said:

I hardly know anyone who's parents are still together. It's crazy how much shit has changed.

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Cann!bal said:

There isn't a time firstly and secondly, I think you're asking the wrong question. Humans don't grow as collectives, they grow as individuals. As the disparity of personal growth increases, the marriage and relationship will gradually metamorphosize into a parasitic dynamic subsisting of a foundation of insecurity based obligation and stagnancy. Evolution did not embed us with the intention to have one lifelong partner. Primates have multiple partners. It would take two extremely secure and aware people, with a profound sense of initiative to cultivate a long lasting and empowering relationship, which in all honesty is almost on the brink of a fantasy.

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